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What is the true meaning of the relationship between a man and a woman? You may not even have thought about it. Let's try to figure it out together.
One Cheating Buster platform reader, Trevor Clark, once asked: "What reasons are there to be in a relationship with someone, anyway? What should be the meaning of such a relationship, and the ultimate goal?" What is the answer to such a question? The truth is, we simply can't give a one-size-fits-all answer, because it really depends on who you ask and what approach to life you practice in general. Too many people, when entering into a relationship, think primarily of what they can get from their partner and what they are supposedly obligated to do - regardless of the circumstances.
"The point of a relationship is to create a unit of society and to maintain social structures - for example, necessarily marrying and raising one's own or adopted children.". People who practice this approach to their personal relationships and life in general are often those who are most concerned about defining clear boundaries, goals, and the direction in which their relationship is headed. They certainly want to know "what's the point of it all" and "where we're going.
"The point of a personal relationship is to find your "other half," the person who will complete you and smooth over all your sharp edges, will be for you the whole universe.". It is usually practiced by people with a worldview of perpetual lack, of something to apply to themselves and their lives, and they are always looking for something (and someone) to fill the emptiness they perceive. This approach often seems quite romantic to those around you, but it's actually quite unhealthy.
"The point of a personal relationship is to be happy," or "personal growth," or, say, "satisfying your sexual and other needs.". Because, well... that's the easiest thing, isn't it, to become a better person by "using" someone else, or at least "looking at yourself through someone else's eyes," isn't it?
A fear-based approach
"I don't want to be alone," or, for example, "I don't want to die alone. People who practice this approach, treat those around them as living "airbags," or the threats from which these "airbags" should protect them.
"They don't make any sense.". What else can I say? Such people also get into personal relationships, and even start families, but why they do it - often not even they themselves can understand.
The basic problem with all of the reasons for starting a relationship is that they - from happiness, status, and security to involvement, sex, children, and the fear of dying alone - put the responsibility for your quality of life and emotional well-being in the hands of someone else, taking it all out of your control. Reread the above most common approaches to life and personal relationships. If you choose either of these, it comes out
Addiction is not love, as much as we would like it to be.
And what if the meaning of the relationship is something that you could always and unconditionally keep under your control, for which you are able to bear full responsibility in all circumstances? For example, in
It is simple to love, both yourself and others.
To enjoy with the one we love the great journey called life, with all its rainy and sunny days. Both are well within the bounds of personal responsibility for our own emotional needs, and don't require you to take them out on someone else, nor do they require you to detach yourself from them. Both keep us from forgetting that we are in control of our own lives, responsible for them in all circumstances, whether good or not.